To be increasingly effective as a person and leader, we must grow in our self-perception. Without knowing it, many people believe things about themselves that are simply not true.
One of my mentors says, “People are polite. Don’t believe everything good they say about you.”
Instead of simply listening to what people say (or what you believe), look at the outcomes of your efforts.
Here are a few examples:
- If people tell you that you are a great leader; but you have extremely high turnover in your staff, maybe you’re not as great as you believe you are.
- If you believe you are a great teacher, but few people sign up for your class; maybe your best gift isn’t really teaching.
- If you think you are funny, but other people simply don’t get your humor; you should probably keep your day job.
In the early years, I believed that I was effective in communicating God’s principles of generosity. Even though I thought I was effective, our church didn’t seem to grow much, if any, in generosity. People would even say, “That was a good sermon on generosity.” But if we aren’t getting the desired results, it doesn’t matter what people say or what we believe.
Once I realized that I wasn’t as effective as I thought, I opened my heart to hear clearly from God. He showed me I wasn’t as generous as I believed I was. God changed me before He changed our church.
You may believe something to be true, but if you don’t see results, what you believe may not be true.