Ministry can be very hard on pastor’s children.
- Your kids will hear you criticized.
- Your kids will watch you hurt.
- Your kids may see you wrongly strike back.
- Your kids might see your hypocrisy up close.
- Your kids might reject the church because you’re always there.
- Your kids may enjoy the extra attention when they are young and despise it when they mature.
No matter how healthy your church is, a pastor’s kid will likely feel a different sort of pressure. Here are a few things we do to help our kids grow up in the fishbowl:
- We put the kids’ activities ahead of the church calendar. If my girls have a piano recital on Saturday night, either I pre-produce the message or have someone else speak.
- I rarely work evenings. The evenings are family time. I also try not to compromise my day off with church needs.
- I don’t talk about my kids in a sermon without their permission.
- Amy and I work hard not to talk negatively about the church.
- We don’t make our kids go to church every week. Every now and then we let them stay home or do something else so going to church doesn’t become a legalistic chore.
- We live our private lives with personal devotion to Christ. We pray and talk about spiritual things with our children regularly.
I’d love to hear what you do.