Even though we know we are called to please God, ministry motives often become cloudy. Without knowing it, we can become obsessed with pleasing people rather than pleasing God.
Here are four characteristics of people pleasers I watch for in my life and ministry:
- People pleasing pastors take most criticism personally. Any suggestion feels like a personal attack. We become overly defensive and resentful of even mild corrections.
- People pleasing pastors have an extraordinary fear of rejection. If someone questions our motives, doesn’t like a sermon, or leaves our ministry, it can throw us into a depressed tailspin.
- People pleasing pastors find it hard to express their feelings. Because we have to “please people,” we don’t feel safe expressing our true feelings and needs.
- People pleasing pastors have a hard time saying “no.” Because we want to make people happy. We often over-commit. Although we are outwardly agreeable, we are often inwardly resentful.
Do you struggle with any of these? What helps you overcome these temptations?